Am I Wrong for Refusing to Celebrate Mothers Day with My Exs New Wife -

AITA for refusing to spend Mother’s Day with my ex and his wife celebrating her as a mom, despite their pressure and expectations

Are you ready for a Mother’s Day story that’s straight out of a drama-filled movie? Well, buckle up because this Reddit thread is about to take you on a rollercoaster ride through the complexities of co-parenting, remarriage, and navigating tricky family dynamics.

Imagine dealing with an ex-husband, his new wife, and a whole heap of unrealistic expectations. Picture a scenario where the ex’s wife comes in guns blazing, expecting to share the title of mom equally with the original mother of the children.

The tension, the pushiness, the demands – it’s a recipe for a family feud that’s been simmering for over a decade. As Mother’s Day approaches, things take a sharp turn.

The ex’s wife, who has a track record of overstepping boundaries, now wants the ex-wife to join in celebrating her first Mother’s Day as a mom herself. But hold up, is it really the ex-wife’s responsibility to make her ex-husband’s new wife feel special on Mother’s Day?

With top comments ranging from fiery support for the ex-wife’s stance to questioning the sanity of the ex and his new wife, this thread is a goldmine of conflicting opinions and righteous indignation. The verdict?

Well, you’ll have to dive into the thread to find out. So, grab your popcorn and get ready to witness a showdown of epic proportions as Reddit weighs in on whether the ex-wife is in the wrong for refusing to spend Mother’s Day with her ex and his new wife.

It’s one heck of a ride!

My ex-husband and I share custody of our 17 year old daughter and 15 year old son. We divorced 12 years ago and co-parented with difficulty ever since.

My ex is remarried and there were tensions between the three of us for the majority of that time. My ex’s wife came in with huge expectations of what she would be to the kids and how involved I would be and none of it was realistic.

* She thought I would agree to giving my ex primary custody and I would be a one weekend a month mom. When that wasn’t what happened she expected everything mom related to be split equally between us.

So alternating Mother’s Day, taking turns doing the Mother’s Day events at school or activities and even changing who was listed as their mom on certain forms. And she really believed that was something I would do and something that would cause zero problems with schools and doctors.

* She expected the kids to call her mom as soon as her wedding ring was on her finger and she believed I would “encourage”, meaning force, them to call her mom. This was a long standing expectation that never got met.

Not one time. * She expected to have the same legal authority as my ex and I had.

And that she would get to make certain decisions for the kids without my ex’s or my input. Those being where they went to school, what doctors they saw and what summer camp’s they’d go to and for how long.

She also expected to decide a religion for them. * She wanted to change their last name to a hyphenated name with hers and mine and ex’s.

She fully expected this to happen too. There was more than a year of her throwing a tantrum because I shut the idea down.

My ex’s wife comes from money and is used to having things her own way. So not getting her expectations met made her increasingly bitter toward me.

She alienated my kids by being too pushy, controlling and trying to change their lives to fit what she believes they should be. Case in point she tried to fight to get them into private school and pressured them to ask me.

She wanted my daughter to be in cheer and music classes up to 6 times a week and she wanted my son in football and boxing six times a week. My kids weren’t interested in those activities and she brought them along multiple times and tried to make them take part.

She told them that’s what boys and girls did. She insulted the parents of my son’s best friend and then attempted to stop all contact between the two kids.

She hated me for refusing to back her up. The kids hated her for all of this.

While she was thinking of them as her kids, they were wishing their dad would divorce her and I know they asked at least twice for him to do just that. When his wife learned she blamed me.

The kids make a point of spending as little time as possible with her. They do not appreciate her and that bothers my ex and his wife.

He and I have discussed it but he told me they should and that I was bitter for not making them appreciate her. He said she made their lives better no matter what the kids think or say.

My ex and his wife did not have a child together until last year and this coming Mother’s Day is her first one as a mom. The day has always been a sore topic for her because the kids are with me and she have anyone but my ex treating her like a mom.

Now she officially is one and she believed that would mean my kids would be there for Mother’s Day going forward but they set the record straight, as did I when asked about it. Now my ex has come up with this insane idea that I should spend the day celebrating his wife and join in their Mother’s Day celebrations.

He said she’s worth celebrating, it’s her first time having her own child on Mother’s Day and our kids should be there but won’t if I’m not. I shut his idea down hard and told him I would not spend the day with his wife.

He tried to turn it into a fight but I walked away from him and have not answered his calls since. He has sent a few texts telling me I need to reconsider.

But I ignored those as well and then he sent his sister after me. She told me it was so petty of me to not even consider meeting in the middle somewhere and then she stated I was rude about everything.

She said I was the reason the kids didn’t like their stepmother and with a half sibling now I needed to figure it out. I walked away from her as well but more texts from my ex followed.

The only thing giving me pause is the fact my ex’s family doesn’t like the new wife. So the fact ex’s sister said what she did is making me question a tiny bit if I’m TA.

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